❝Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.
– Mark Twain
Here’s a Quick Test which can give you an overview of your Anger & Anxiety emotions –
(Note– Keep Track of your choices. Remember, there should be only one selected statement in each question. )
Q1. Do you have anger controlling issues?
- Yes, All the time! I end up saying things I don’t really mean.
- No, I keep it to myself. I don’t like shouting.
Q2. Have you felt stuck at a point where you feel helpless about something?
- Yes, It makes me want to throw everything away.
- Yes, I cry about it then.
Q3. Does it irritate you too much when things don’t go your way or people don’t do things in accordance to you?
- Yes, I feel like reprimanding everybody. They deserve it.
- No, I give up on giving myself a chance to explain instead. I lose the energy, zest & zeal in disappointment.
Q4. What would your reaction be if you found out you’re being cheated on by your partner?
- Fight them & abandon them. Once a Cheater, always a cheater. They deserve shrewd behavior!
- Abandon them. They don’t need an explanation, they know the truth. I don’t want to talk or fight, just cry.
Mostly A’s – You have anger issues. The rate of your anger cannot clearly be judged here, however, you tend to let things out than crying in pain. Therefore, if your anger tends to increase, you may even lose control in the urge to take out all that’s bothering you inside.
Mostly B’s – You have anxiety & nervousness. You prefer holding back your emotions due to the fear of losing the other audience, hurting them or saying too much. This pain and anxiety bottles up to burst into tears and disturbs your daily life & thinking process.
Anxiety & Nervousness associates with fear and Insecurities with self or another. Anxiety results in anger or helplessness. For people who are outspoken and expressive, they tend to get angry in order to release frustration and anxiousness. Many people experience profound anxiety as a result of their anger episodes due to their inability of controlling anger.
Anxiety is the primary response for fight response in our body. It becomes chaotic when your body activates a response for no reason or in search of one. This causes a variety of unwanted physical & mental experiences that make it hard to control the quality of life you live.
Let us check out the causes of and Symptoms of Anger-
(1) Loss of Control
Anger is a loss of control of the anxiousness, triggering in excess, within an individual. One example is Panic Attacks, along with other anxiety disorders, where many people who suffer from anger issues experience the effects of no longer feeling a control over their emotions & lifestyle.
(2) Blaming Others
A natural response to stress is to pass it on or blaming it on another person. We tend to misunderstand as to how others contribute to our circumstances by acting in a particular way in a given situation. It just increases weakness & insecurities, bringing on guilt later in time. It causes people to unintentionally pass the blame on others as a way of explaining away their unusual behaviors.
Anger brings on tremendous irritation within an individual. Irritation makes a person prone to experiencing negative emotions, including anger. Those who witness constant irritation instances tend to get upset about others bothering them and express this feeling with anger.
In addition, it is vital to know that anger can be a cause of anxiety, not only a symptom. People who have anger issues often experience deep and intense anxiety as they tend to worry about controlling their anger which, in some people, leads to further outbursts of anger instead of talking things out. This cycles back more stress.
Why Gaining Control over your Emotions & Anger is critical.
It is not necessary that something should be controlled or reduced right away. Things take time. This requires a great deal of time and effort, as well as commitment to ensure a control over your emotions & anger issues.
Since Anger & Anxiety are interconnected and parallel from all aspects, suppressing and gaining control over one of the either would make things better.
How to Control your Anger & Anxiety?
(1) Deep Breathing
When you know you’re about to burst your anger, take a deep breath. Try to internally divert your mind to a happy place which calms you from the insides. This is very important and hence the primary solution to both the problems. It helps you gain time and save energy. It also gives you a fair chance to give a proper explanation than blurting out whatever comes in your mind.
(2) Releasing Stress
When you’re angry or anxious, it drives your brain with thoughts which are irrelevant. Removal of these thoughts is very important for releasing and letting out stress in a calm manner. This is done by calmly analysing the situation and the possibilities / consequences of each action you plan to make. Also, unhurriedly, talk out what’s bothering you and disturbing your behavior. If you don’t feel like talking to somebody, write it down on a piece of paper and crumple it later.
(3) Rushing Off
When you feel that your anger or anxiety has almost crossed levels of sanity, rush out of the environment you’re in. Divert your mind. Drink water and try to think of something else. You need to learn to let yourself flee, so that you’re not staying around long enough to see what comes from a fight.
Psychology states some people to be more “hot-headed” than others, which results in them being angrier than others. These people get angry more intensely & quickly than others. Also, there are those who suppress their anger and fall into depression or emotional instability.
So, it is very important that you control your anger and anxiousness in order to understand yourself better and lead an emotionally healthy life. Knowing yourself better never runs out of style. Being the master of your own emotions will make you emotionally intelligent enough to handle and tackle all types of situations. For more help, write to email@example.com or chat with experts now.