We are in the twenty first century. Yet, in India, homosexuality is a taboo. Although, the honourable Supreme Court passing the right to privacy as a fundamental right is a cause for celebration, but we still have a long way to go. While the trauma that lack of support brings, is equally troubling for both males and females, it is the former who bear most of the brunt, for not being ‘man enough’ to have sex with a girl. This, combined with various masochistic expectations, which forces one to be less emotional and more physical, brings forth a deterioration in mental health, an insecurity, which further pushes one back in the closet.
But, you are who you are, and there is nothing to be ashamed of the same. The question arises, as to how you can come out as a homosexual openly, without letting the ridicules affect you. Because face the fact, people will say stuff. But you cannot stop living your life to please them. How can you be so comfortable in your skin so that you can accept and tell the world what your sexual orientation is? Read on.
Read about others’ experiences
Trust us when we say that the web is not just a fun place to be. Internet as a medium is a source for so many wonderful stories; you just need to know what to search for. Read the stories of happy gay couples, the ones who came out. Not all experiences will be hunky-dory, and of course they will narrate how their paths were riddled with hurdles, but, at the end of it, they succeeded, and that is the hope you need to hold on to.
Who is that one person who you can unconditionally trust, the one on who you can rely totally, knowing that he or she will not judge you? Confide into that person and take comfort in the positivity and love that they exude. It will give you the strength that you need.
Think how free you will be
Till now, you have been living a life of pretence, which takes a pressure of its own, creating issues in mental health. Imagine a life where you are free to be who you are. For that life, open up. Let that thought fill you up with the confidence you need in opening up.
Let go of the pressure
Don’t think that you have to come out in a certain time period. Coming out is no easy task, and you should give yourself as much time as you need to prepare for the task. Sleep over it as many nights as you want, think it through, and when you are ready, just do it.
Don’t let religion come in between
Think as a human; every human being has orientation, lifestyle of his or her own, irrespective of religious beliefs. No matter what the people say, to scare you and make you against the notion, making you feel that being homosexual is a sin, remember that every religion and strata of the society has homosexuals. And that is a truth no one can deny. They have as much rights as any other citizen.
Lastly, never let guilt takeover you for being the way you are. Your sexual orientation is no one’s choice but yours, and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Be proud of being who you are.