Do you sometimes feel that your partner nags on a daily basis?
Do your weekends go only to clarify things to your partner?
Do you miss the warmth in your relationship that you had till a few years or months back?
Do you love your spouse but really hate the complaints and nagging from them?
Well managing a nagging partner is sure not easy! However, believing that the most lovable person in your life would never turn into a nag is a big mistake most of you make. The transition from the initial role of a girlfriend/boyfriend to a full time, partner can be gruesome for you. And all the more when you have to face the taunting, and sighing, and all the criticism that your partner heaps on you. Nonetheless, it is what most relationships end up being after the couple spends some prolonged times together. But it happens only if the partners do not fine tune their emotional and psychological frequencies in the early stages of the most important and responsible relationship of their life. When living with a critical or nagging partner, you might frequently feel defensive and whip back which in turn can strain your relationship even more. If you don’t want to turn your sweet relationship into a sour soup, know some effective and positive ways to deal with your partner’s nagging and complaints.
Don’t take things personally, every time
There can be all kinds of reasons why a person might be snappy and critical. In most cases, the criticism has more to do with the one saying it and less to do with the one it’s directed toward. So don’t take it personally before figuring things out. For instance if you know that your partner is under a lot of work pressure or has been not keeping well or has been feeling depressed off late, this is the time you should avoid taking criticism or constant nag personally. Take your partner’s feelings and situations into consideration.
Create agreements between you two
The more you can move beyond feeling like your partner is against you, the more easily you can stop the picking and complaints. Try to create agreements with your partner that will address both your needs about certain situations. But make sure, you are not imposing your idea or opinion on the other person. Create agreements together. When you stop feeling like a victim, you can actually start making changes that will bring improvement in your relationship.
Communicate to appreciate differences
It’s impossible to have perfect partners or relationships. There will always be certain differences. So, whenever your partner starts nagging about your bad habits, point out few of your partner’s shortcomings and how you don’t complain back about them. But at the same time you can always assure your partner that you will try to change things for good as much as possible. But be very tactful while communicating all these points. It shouldn’t sound rude as that will take things to different level.
Take a break from routine
Remember that absence makes the heart grow fonder. So, why not apply the same in this situation? Take a break from each other and be away for a little while. To be a bigger support, you can always ask your partner to go for a short getaway with his/her friends, or you can schedule an outstation business meeting for yourself. This will give you both enough time to miss or value your bond and the tuning that you guys always had.
A nagging partner is not a healthy sign in a relationship, but you can surely make things work in a way that can help your partner communicate with you without using the taunts, rather being supportive towards you.