Any sort of breakup or separation is hurtful and when it comes to divorce it is no less than a stressful and unsettling event of life. Going through a divorce can be very difficult, no matter the reason for it. It can turn your world upside down and make it hard to even get through the day. And that state of mind is obvious. After all a major relationship is ending, upsetting all sort of routines and in the midst of the stress of transition there are legal hoops to take care before things can be resolved. With emotional levels going up, society and family to answer to and keeping up with the havoc of daily life, the situation can get really challenging. Most people going through divorce experience some degree of situational depression as part of the normal grieving process over all the losses the end of the marriage brings. If not dealt appropriately, the depression can linger for much longer than it needs to. In this post, we will point out practical ways that divorcing people can cope with making the best of their stressful circumstances.
Tips on How to deal with divorce?
Bid a proper goodbye
This is the foremost thing you can do. But as we know talking your heart out can get overwhelming so you can take the help of a pen and paper. Write a letter of goodbye to everyone whose relationship won’t be the same with you post the divorce. Some of the things you might want to say goodbye to are your role as spouse, the traditions you had of celebrating birthdays, and seeing your kids (if any) every day. Some of the people you may want to say goodbye to are your in-laws and your partner’s friends who won’t be able to stand by your side during this major life event. This exercise will help you realise what you’re losing with the end of your marriage. You’ll know exactly what it is that you’re grieving and what you can work on to put your grief behind you.
Give yourself a break from the routines
When going gets tough, take a break from the going. Give yourself permission to feel and to function at a less than optimal level for a good period of time. You may not be able to be quite as productive on the job or care for others in exactly the way you’re accustomed to for a little while. And people will understand. Try getting close to nature, it has its way to heal our souls. Get a spa, go to a serene place where you can have close conversation with yourself, take time out to exercise, eat well and relax. Take time to heal, regroup and re-energize.
Get close to your friends
Don’t go through this emotional trauma all by yourself. Sharing your feelings with friends and family can help you get through this period. Consider calling your trusted friends over and open up to them about the way you feel. Finding someone who can and will listen and allow you to vent your hurt’s emotions and fears and offer comforting advice often proves very helpful. Talking helps to reduce your stress levels, improve concentration, and will help you gain better perspective about this entire event. If you keep things just to yourself, the depression will get in the way of your work, other relationships and overall health.
Consider healthy counseling
A qualified counsellor is a trained and empathic listener with an expert understanding of how divorce affects and changes lives. A counsellor will be able to provide a safe place where you can vent your emotions and talk about your extreme fears, especially those feelings that are too private and intense to share with someone else. A counsellor will also be able to provide expert guidance on managing stress, depression, and self-defeating thoughts, rebuilding an effective life in the aftermath of divorce.
Café Counsel provides experts to those who are seeking some peace of mind post-divorce. And no need of meeting the expert in person. You can simply open up from the comfort of your home or elsewhere to attain online counseling. You can join us at www.cafecounsel.com or write to us at firstname.lastname@example.org to fix up an appointment.
Don’t let the worry about divorce ruin your life, gather the strength to move on and seek help whenever you require.