“I was blind and heart broken and didn’t want to do anything and Gus burst into my room and shouted, “I have wonderful news!” And I was like, “I don’t really want to hear wonderful news right now,” and Gus said, “This is wonderful news you want to hear,” and I asked him, “Fine, what is it?” and he said, “You are going to live a good and long life filled with great and terrible moments that you cannot even imagine yet!” ― John Green, The Fault In Our Stars
Love is in the air – practically woven within every inch of oxygen spread out during the Valentine’s Week. The event of “Valentine’s” is practically used as a marketing gimmick and celebrated in all parts of the world as the Festival of Romance. Singles mock about it and the ones in relationship act corny at all corners of the city, for this season has its own vibe and hype. In the war of being pretentious and overdoing however, there are a handful of people who undergo a serious emotional breakdown and a series of anxiety events.
How to Deal with Heartbreaks Post Valentine’s Day?
It can be so that you’ve been dumped during or prior this event and that can be a very harsh phase to pass through for the following reasons :-
Seeing lovey-dovey couples all around you, is a typical situation that can make you miss your ex-guy or girl. On playing a tune you both danced on, or other little things connected to your past relationship; that you come across during this week – can make you feel alone and at times risen the urge for a reunion.
Just because something you thought to be perfect – didn’t turn out so perfect – it is quite possible that you feel like giving up on everything in life. Feeling like you’ve failed your relationship seeing couples all around can make you feel negative about yourself and your future.
The major root cause of all problems is undoubtedly – over thinking. This many a times leads to assumptions of negative repercussions to a given situation and people often jump to self presumed and believed versions of conclusion. This can pull out as a stressful, emotional rollercoaster and many a times causing panic attacks, anxiety and even depression.
How to overcome a Heartbreak?
It is important that first, you understand as to why this is the most important escape mechanism route you should consider adopting. The above were a handful of major concerns of what goes inside our mind and as an individual, one needs to sit back and introspect, for all of the above are relatable.
- Mend the ways of your Thinking
Bring a change in your attitude and thought processing. It is important that you transform your thoughts. Love and relationships are a part of your life – not the sole purpose of your existence. If you don’t stand up for yourself, who will? It is important that we put aside the set of thoughts we encountered and processed while being in a relationship and gather the ability to move on to a new phase.
- Accept the Reality
As unimaginable as it sounds, acceptance is the core of moving on. Accepting the reality is important for one basic reason – you need to accept that the past is past and the reality can be as shocking as ever, but it’s so for your own good. You need to break the cycle of painful memories to gain the courage to make new ones.
Since you’re not dating anybody, nobody will complain and seek your time. Utilize this time to know more about yourself. Understand your emotions. Analyze your actions, ensure you don’t repeat them if the consequences were rough & learn from your loss. Dig deep into your hobbies and interests and pursue them, they will not only keep you calm but will also add excitement to your life.
It is important that you believe in love. Do not allow betrayal or bad experiences frighten you into isolation or diminish the passions of your heart. Yes, love is volatile and suffering can be pathetic to bear, but a life without it would be awfully dull.
If a thought, belief or relationship does not cater you happiness and comfort – there is no written law that says that because you once believed something, you have to continue to believe it forever. Just as time passes by, life goes on. It is on you as to how you pull yourself out of the past and move to your future. Falling in love is not a harmful thing and not being lucky in love is a part of life. If you don’t face the bad phases life has to offer, how will you feel the joy that comes forth?
The idea is to celebrate life and stay positive throughout every situation. Be it a Valentine’s or any other day – learn to love yourself, just stay spirited and never stop believing that good things will happen in life.
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