Have you ever heard of a happy family man who kind of got fed up with life and started living alone? We are certain you have. Most probably he was in his late 40’s or in 50’s. Now, if he’s lucky, his children still talk to him, but his wife would be filing for a divorce thinking he has lost all interest in her. Or maybe you have come across a 50 year-old guy who feels a lot better since he was prescribed antidepressants for the first time in his life? Or the guy who suddenly lost it at work, did something outrageous and got fired? Or the successful corporate guy who took an early retirement and finally found happiness in gardening? Well the so-called male mid-life crisis takes many forms but they are all merely variations of the same premise.
Many men seem to wake up one morning in their mid-forties to mid-fifties and start asking themselves some basic questions about their lives. A true midlife crisis usually involves changing your entire life in a hurry. It is actually an attempt to restart life to better fit a person’s heart. Due to existing personal commitments, it often isn’t easy to self resolve the inner conflict a person feels. As a result many times a person in midlife crisis will act confused or lost while trying to sort out the contradictions they feel and now have in their life. This mixture of conscious to unconscious actions often makes a person in midlife crisis unpredictable.
Common Symptoms of Midlife Crisis
The following is a list of common symptoms that illustrate how defining a midlife crisis is truly relative to the person experiencing the changes.
- Desire to quit the current profession
- Change of habits or activities which used to bring pleasure before, now seem boring
- Unexplained bouts of depression when doing tasks that used to make you happy
- Wanting to take a step back from everything
- Irritability or unexpected anger
- Sudden desire to learn how to play an instrument or learn a sport, drawing or writing (the desires of youth that were unfulfilled)
- Desire to surround yourself with different settings (basically drifting yourself from the mundane)
- Urge to hang out with a different generation as their energy and ideas stimulate you
- Keep re-asking yourself – “Where am I going with my life?”
Handling the Symptoms of Mid-Life Crisis
Don’t go by random feelings – Feelings may fade or change over time but if you pursue all your feelings you may be trapped in a particular situation. Just because you feel like you have to escape your home or job, doesn’t mean you have to actually do it. These feelings may indeed point to some existing problems that need solving. So try and resolve those pain points.
Be thankful for the good in your life – Take time to be grateful for the parts of your life that make you happy. Your career, a loving family, your caring friends etc. Once you evaluate the good things in your life, ask yourself how you’d feel if you took an action that caused you to lose all of them.
Take advice before taking any step – Before you make major decisions, discuss them with someone whose advice you’ll trust. A friend or a well wisher, even a professional can give you different perspective on whether you’re making wise choices. Discuss with them whether your wishes are realistic. Just make sure the new steps are practical, within your grasp and won’t hurt your emotions in future.
Sometimes just asking a question or discussing things is enough of an action to resolve a seemingly impossible crisis into a process of growth that truly transforms everything. If you want our experts to hear you out and help you with better perspective, get in touch with us.