What is it like to be a Single Mom in India?
Singlehood among women has always been frowned or looked down upon because of conservative and orthodox practices, rules of family and apprehension of relatives. Whether a woman is divorced, widowed or chose not to marry, the paths are never easy for her.
People start judging soon, assumptions are made that there must be something wrong with her and parents are often criticized for not being able to find a suitable match for their daughter. And when it comes to a divorce, most of the time the blame is pushed towards a woman. So in a scenario like this where singlehood isn’t respected, it gets even more difficult for a single mother to raise her children diligently.
We at Cafe Counsel have been dealing with lot of single moms and we understand the kind of mental stress and sometimes societal trauma they have to go through. We are pretty much proud of each & every single mom we came across and this post is based on all those awesome interactions our online counselors witnessed.
In fact single mothers are harder on themselves than anyone else could ever be. They feel double responsible being a single parent and always experience the stress of raising the kids as perfectly as other parents. And in doing so they often feel frustrated, exhausted and helpless. But in the midst of all the pandemonium and mix of emotions, one must be proud of being a single mother because a lot of people aren’t strong enough to embrace it. When you are a single mother, you have the ability to raise your kids on your own accord. So when they grow up they can be proud children.
But first hold your head high and feel proud of yourself.
Be proud to be a master juggler
Women in general should be proud of themselves to master the skill of juggling. And add motherhood to it and you are no less than a role model. Be proud the way you have learnt to manage to take care of your children entirely on your own. List the many responsibilities you are successfully managing right from working, taking your kids to school, helping with homework, managing finances, tackling daily chores, paying bills, meeting with teachers and hundreds of other undivided responsibilities.
Be proud to meet their needs
With the increasing prices of commodities, couple of earnings can even fall short to manage household expenses and meeting children’s needs in terms of education, taking them for a holiday, raising them well etc. As a working single mom, there must have been times when you were worried that something would not come in on time to get what your kids need. Child support aside, kids’ education are so darn expensive these days. Raising them on a single income can be very difficult. So when you are able to earn, saving up and trying to get them what they need, be very proud of yourself.
Be proud that your kids are thriving
What makes many single moms particularly proud of is that their kids are strong and healthy – physically and emotionally. Wearing the shoes of both the parents and able to raise kids who are responsible, decent and well behaved are matters to feel proud of. After all you get to see that the hardships finally paid off. You are not looked down upon anymore. In fact you set good example for hundreds and thousands of single mothers out there.
Be proud that you did it all
It wasn’t simple but you made every single day count. You made it through every day. You took care of your kids – physically and emotionally. You helped them in every possible and you will continue to do so. Some days you felt overwhelming, some days were cloudy and insane but you faced them all. You made it through and lived to love your children every moment. Take pride for this very achievement.
What are you most proud of as a single mom? This Women’s Day pen down your feelings as a proud mother and share it with us on firstname.lastname@example.org